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 · I've had a really bad run of online dating recently. Ended a bad relationship at the end of last year and then threw myself back in. Four months later Idk, I broke up with my long term bf about 10 months ago, dated a woman for three months in there, and have been single for about two months now  · Then keep on doing what you're doing and get an online profile going too. You want a relationship? Remember the rule of You'll ask out 10 girls before you get a date, and Hi so am tentatively dipping toes into this online dating stuff after a very long marriage. So got chatting to this guy he seemed nice was similar to Create an account to join the conversation Online dating in general is a fucking disaster and bad for the average person’s mental health, and provides little in the way of possibility to actually MEET someone off of them (apparently ... read more

She was on a coupe of sites and got a lot of creepy messages. Eventually she decided to initiate contact with lots of blokes she thought seemed nice rather than wait to be contacted. I feel you, OLD in lockdown with a just turned two year old to consider is ridiculous. I've resigned myself to not meeting anyone through work as my job is in a female dominated sector. Once my subscription to match runs out in September I won't be renewing it.

And have hope! I was 50 and a bit fat, but so's he. But lovely. Match is crap. I liked Bumble better than Tinder but still no luck. Maybe next year 😿. Teddybeans you sound just like me I met one guy who was. a friend of a friend. We had sex and I was never contacted again. Maybe I should resign myself to getting my needs met once in a while and concentrate on motherhood instead.

I met my husband on POF after 3 weeks. Had a few dates in that time. I contacted him. I automatically discounted anyone who just wrote 'hi. EstherLittle This is going to sound a bit pathetic but I really hoped someone I liked would contact me first. How do people find the time to date and develop a relationship when you have so little time to yourself?

I met DH on POF and we've been together 8 years and have two children now. So it can work! Took me about 18m to meet DH. It's a numbers game. Don't get overly attached to anyone before meeting; don't chat for too long before arranging a date harder during lockdown admittedly ; be proactive - don't wait around for someone to message you if you're interested. And don't worry about chatting to lots of people at the same time, it just increases your odds though save the conversations to refer back to so you don't get them mixed up.

It's hell, but if you put in the work then it can be worth it. I met my now fiancé 3. My boys were 7 and 9 at the time, he didn't have any children of his own. We now have a four week-old baby daughter together No more now though - I turn 40 this year!

I tried E Harmony. Their supposed scientific matching process. Is absolute crap. Non of my matches had any thing in common. The men on it were odd. I've also tired Catholic Match as I'm practicing Catholic, but it seems to think Ireland is within 50 miles of where I live. I met DH on Match 8 or so years ago when I was 30, two kids later and very happy.

It absolutely can work, but you do need a thick skin at times! I met my husband on POF, I'd been on and off for 3 years, had a 2 years relationship with someone I met online, we split up so i went back on and my DH was the first person to message me. Incredibly happy 7 years later. I didnt respond to any 'Hi' or generic messages. Good luck! I know not to take it too seriously. Register today and join the discussion Have your say, get notified on what matters to you and see fewer ads Register now.

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I only actually met one bloke in all the time I did OD. Reader, I married him. Sometimes I had to give it a rest as I was so naffed off with it all, but it's just a numbers game really. I used UKdating, if its still around.

My friend met her husband through online dating. She was on a coupe of sites and got a lot of creepy messages. Eventually she decided to initiate contact with lots of blokes she thought seemed nice rather than wait to be contacted.

I feel you, OLD in lockdown with a just turned two year old to consider is ridiculous. I've resigned myself to not meeting anyone through work as my job is in a female dominated sector. Once my subscription to match runs out in September I won't be renewing it. And have hope! I was 50 and a bit fat, but so's he. But lovely. Match is crap. I liked Bumble better than Tinder but still no luck. Maybe next year 😿.

Teddybeans you sound just like me I met one guy who was. a friend of a friend. We had sex and I was never contacted again. Maybe I should resign myself to getting my needs met once in a while and concentrate on motherhood instead. I met my husband on POF after 3 weeks. Had a few dates in that time. I contacted him. I automatically discounted anyone who just wrote 'hi.

EstherLittle This is going to sound a bit pathetic but I really hoped someone I liked would contact me first. How do people find the time to date and develop a relationship when you have so little time to yourself? I met DH on POF and we've been together 8 years and have two children now. So it can work! Took me about 18m to meet DH. It's a numbers game. Don't get overly attached to anyone before meeting; don't chat for too long before arranging a date harder during lockdown admittedly ; be proactive - don't wait around for someone to message you if you're interested.

And don't worry about chatting to lots of people at the same time, it just increases your odds though save the conversations to refer back to so you don't get them mixed up. It's hell, but if you put in the work then it can be worth it. I met my now fiancé 3. My boys were 7 and 9 at the time, he didn't have any children of his own. We now have a four week-old baby daughter together No more now though - I turn 40 this year! I tried E Harmony. Their supposed scientific matching process.

Is absolute crap. Non of my matches had any thing in common. The men on it were odd. I've also tired Catholic Match as I'm practicing Catholic, but it seems to think Ireland is within 50 miles of where I live.

I met DH on Match 8 or so years ago when I was 30, two kids later and very happy. It absolutely can work, but you do need a thick skin at times! I met my husband on POF, I'd been on and off for 3 years, had a 2 years relationship with someone I met online, we split up so i went back on and my DH was the first person to message me. Incredibly happy 7 years later. I didnt respond to any 'Hi' or generic messages. Good luck! I know not to take it too seriously.

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. I've had a really bad run of online dating recently. Ended a bad relationship at the end of last year and then threw myself back in. Four months later started dating a nice guy but it ended after three months because he wasn't feeling as strongly as he expected to feel by then.

After that I went on a string of further dates 6 or 7 different men and not one has led anywhere. Sometimes it's been mutual lack of interest and sometimes it's been them rejecting me - twice I've fancied them and they've said they haven't felt the same, which really hurts.

That combined with the other rejection from the guy I was dating for a few months just makes me feel incredibly unwanted and undesirable. I don't know if I'm doing something wrong or if I'm just not that attractive anymore I'm I used to feel sexy and desirable but these experiences have made me question that.

If I really was then why would I have this string of rejections I still see mutual lack of interest as a rejection. Is this just a rough patch or does it really get so much harder as you get older previously had more success with online dating?

Should I just give up? I've never got involved with on line dating, like you, I ended a 20 year relationship last year. I'm really enjoying not being involved with a man. Same reasons, I wasn't that into some of them, vice versa, some were players. So it's not new but what's similar is that when I was dating albeit very young in the early 90s the guys were young too and had a sweet shop mentality. Social media and apps has extended that now to any guys using dating apps.

I think late 30s is a tricky stage for dating. Everyone is making assumptions about whether babies are a focus or not.

Much easier once you are past that expectation and the time pressure is off. But yes, OLD can be brutal and exhausting. Make sure you have plenty of other stuff going on in your life and some supportive friends. ImJustMadAboutSaffron yeah, I get the sweet shop mentality issue. What hurts a lot is that the guys of the 6 or 7 that I have liked, I felt we really seemed to click emotionally and intellectually but they didn't want to take it further and that makes me think it must be my looks, which is so depressing because I can't do anything about that.

I've also always been a bit insecure about how I look not conventionally attractive although I've been told I'm sexy - god knows i don't feel it at the moment! and this just seems to confirm all of those worries.

DropOfffArtiste I've got plenty of other stuff going on and plenty of friends but a lot of them are having kids now. I feel lonely and like I'm worth less than they are because of that, even though I'm on the fence about having kids and have said as much to some of the men I've dated, so it can't be that they assume I'm desperate to have kids.

Sounds like you're showing your insecurities on your dates, try not to be so down on yourself. Someone will come along and like you for you. Try and concentrate on your good points, think about what they are. Hari - unfortunately late 30s and telling dates you are "on the fence" about having kids creates an ambiguous situation for your date which probably isn't helping matters.

Perhaps try and work through your feelings on this issue. You might lose dates because of it but I think you will improve your chances of meeting the right guy. I have never tried online dating but as many others on this site have said it is a numbers game and you need the hide of a rhino to deal with the rejections and arseholes who contact you the rejection bit is the same for blokes BTW.

It's made you feel insecure about your looks as well although I much prefer sexy to conventionally attractive😀 Maybe take a break, throw yourself into socialising with your friends - there must be a couple of single ones you can go to the local wine bar with. I know so many couples that met through friends or when one or other was having a quiet drink with a friend in a pub.

It does happen. It's not easy finding a relationship, especially through online, it's harder without knowing if you would fancy each other irl. I remember before online dating days it still wasn't easy when young and socialable. Try not to get too invested too soon, even if you do fancy them, still keep your emotions protected, make sure that they are good enough for you and have proved to be kind and consistent with communication.

Nothing wrong in taking breaks from it, I haven't dated anyone since feb as I'm just enjoying my own company. People either do it as a numbers game or be really picky, I prefer to be picky than spend most of my free time dating. ManAboutTown I have worked through my feelings on the issue. My feelings are that I'm on the fence. Not everyone has black and white feelings on the issue and nor are they meant to.

Often it comes down to being in the right relationship at the right time, hence why it can be difficult to take any stance other than an ambiguous one when you're single.

I don't know if I'm doing something wrong Yes. You're allowing the opinions of a handful of men to dictate to you whether you're attractive or not. Most of us are not attractive to most of us. If someone takes a look at you and says 'Nah', it doesn't mean you're not attractive. It means you're not attractive to them. Ask yourself why you respect the opinions of these men so much. These 6 or 7 men who don't even really like you that much. Why do their opinions have an impact on your self image?

Why are their opinions important enough to even be factored in? it is a numbers game and you need the hide of a rhino to deal with the rejections and arseholes No, you don't. You need healthy self esteem, and the recognition that other people's views don't dictate who you are. You need the hide of a psychologically healthy person!

Hari - assuming you are dating men more or less your own age a lot of blokes in their late 30s will have views on whether they want children or not some may already have kids and want no more. Those that don't want them will be put off by the "on the fence" comment as they won't want to jump into a relationship with a woman who may suddenly decide she wants kids 12 months down the line.

As you have clearly thought your own position through perhaps a subtle way of dealing with it is to say something like "I could have a perfectly happy future with or without children" as it sounds more positive. A man would take away more from that - if I didn't want kids that remark wouldn't put me off and if I did it wouldn't put me off either. Remember early dating they don't know you that well nor you them.

ManAboutTown that is, in fact, exactly what I have said. But thx anyway for the mansplaining. She met him online a few years back and they now have a baby. They are very well suited. Another friend also met their girlfriend online and they have two kids. Also well suited. Without OLD they would never have met. On the other hand they may have met people equally suitable. Multiple people out there would fit the bill.

But she now has little chance, really, of meeting someone. Do you want to settle "down" though? As in cohabit, get married? Are you clear on your intentions? I do think it gets harder past Also men who are wanting to have children would want to be someone who definitely wants a family not someone who is on the fence about it. OP, I started a thread about this yesterday. I'm a bit older than you but this was my OP. Split up with long term partner a year ago. Been online dating since January.

Just getting to the messaging stage is challenging. So many men my age come across as creepy describe themselves as physical or tactile , or aggressive angry profiles about how terrible women are or look a lot older than they say they are or have had very hard lives.

The few that I do message are ok at first but get sexual after a few messages, so I block. Some just peter out because we don't have much in common. I've met a couple that just wouldn't work. The only one I've met that is lovely and sane and nice is going away for 12 months on a secondment to the USA. He's been nice to date but we knew it wouldn't go anywhere. He's also 5 years younger than me. I feel like he would have dated anyone who agreed to a casual relationship.

I'm too old to build a family with someone. I have my own house and a decent job, so I'm self sufficient. I'm looking for a friend and adult company more than anything I think. I keep myself in shape and think I'm ok for someone in their mid 40s. I'm feeling really down. I'm on the shelf aren't i? ShelfyMcShelfface I'm very sorry to hear that.

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I was quite excited! oh yes this happens AL THE TIME. How To Make A Woman Want You Sexually Guide To Building Her Interest And Sexual Attraction Joyanima posted a blog entry in Youtube , March 28 Learn how to make a woman want you sexually! You need a thick skin, a good sense of humour and enhanced cynicism and you will be fine Make sure your knob radar is working. I met DH on Match 8 or so years ago when I was 30, two kids later and very happy. Top Discussions this Week.

Do they need to be biological ones? You're delusional. the fact that they sent me a kiss meant they saw something in me they liked. I'm just doing a short intro and asking for a bit more info from them and trying to pick out points disheartened by online dating their profile where possible. They don't really have any singles to invite many times, so no women or sometimes divorced women are there, disheartened by online dating. Exactly, sad to see things are as bad for women as men in terms of response rates. I am not sending any more kisses - seems to be an unsuccessful tactic!

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